A Simple Apology


The tale that this article narrates is that of an escape from responsibility, respect and apology. On the 2nd of May, screenshots of a group namely “Boiis Locker Room” were leaked on Instagram. This group was used to circulate objectionable pictures of girls to objectify and sexualise them. When this happened there was outrage among people who started posting these on their stories. The boys, in retaliation, instead of acknowledging their mistake and apologising, issued rape threats and leaked nude images of the girls. At the same time, a group of girls with a group chat named “not so sanssitively moiraaann…” came to the fore. One of them used homophobic slurs and fat-shamed another, which was largely ignored. The Delhi Commission for Women, suo-moto, took up the boys’ group to task, ignoring the girls’ group. It also came to light on May 11 that the rape threats were, as a matter of fact, issued by a girl using a fake id on snapchat.

It was unnerving to see posts of hypocrites, feminists and activists’ support acts of students chatting about nudes and objectifying the female body and vice versa. Everyone in question above escaped the prism of humanity and humanism with no one giving a thought to it. The act of the boys is deplorable and so is the response to it. People who assume titles like feminists, egalitarians, MRA’s, LGBTQ+ activists, Hindus, Muslims, boys, girls, ought not to forget that we are human; and from no humane point of view are any of these chats justifiable. The only notable point being the parties escaping and an introspection still being in denial.

The actions of these boys have attracted whatever legal action it could, regardless of the fact that they are juveniles. The response to their actions by the girls needs deep introspection. The stand taken by the boys, the response of the girls and the eventual selective cognisance of the Delhi Commission For Women is at odds with law and logic, albeit the fact that some claim that females are not given equal treatment. Equality as a concept cannot be selective and has to be universally applicable without selective application to the situation and persons involved. In this given situation, both the groups deserve to be dealt in accordance with applicable laws and that would answer the question of equality.  

Let’s not dwell on it but in this entire episode none of the relevant parties felt it necessary to apologise for their respective actions and that is where the fault lies. With the charade of blame game in progress, the apology from both parties escaped us. The news channels acknowledged the call of these girls going public by calling it “brave” while the more sensible thing to do would be going to the police. Instead of making a case out of it, it has been reduced to a topic for coffee table gossip. Their actions were wrong and may be without an intent to harm or ignorant of the capability of harm. However, when their actions were called out to be wrong, the least expected response was a sincere apology. This apathy begs us to question the upbringing of these boys and girls and also raises deep legal questions of their actions and liabilities. While all of us wore blinders and were spectators to a blame game, both parties escaped from the prism of responsibility, apology, humanity and liability. A simple apology would go a long way.


Author: Kshitij Nahar

Editor: Adwita Chaure

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