Homophobia – The Out-Of-The-Closet Discrimination
Hello there! Why are you hiding in the closet? Come out! It's okay. I’m here for you. There is nothing to be frightened about. Except the sociopaths. But there’s really nothing to be afraid of. You just have to be strong. The sociopaths will try to steal your happiness and make life a living hell for you because their mind is narrower than the galis of Mumbai and “acceptance” is just not in their mental dictionary because no one has accepted them for who they are. Their life feeds off giving unsolicited opinions and passing judgements faster than the New York Times vs United States Supreme Court Decision.
What is that I hear? Being “that” is not normal? It is not the way of God and nature? Well, first of all, “that” is being a part of the LGBTQIAA+ community and second, it's not a diploma course, taught to people. It is an inherent knowing, waiting for self-acceptance.
Ooh, remember back in the day when you made that gay joke, and everyone laughed? And the one guy who did not and said that it was offensive, and you said, “Why? Are you gay? I always suspected you were funny and had an eye on Ramlal kaka over there.” Yeah, that is not funny. That joke is homophobic, and you are too.
“Yeah, but I am not scared of the queer.” Homophobia is not exactly fear. It’s an irrational hate, an unnecessary prejudice against the queer. Let’s clear some stereotypes about this now, shall we?
No, it doesn’t. It's not like the Corona Virus. A queer person cannot make you or your child queer, but they can only help you or them to open your eyes.
It’s a choice
No, it's not a choice. You don’t suddenly wake up one day and decide to be queer. It's inherent. You only come to realize and hopefully, accept it.
It’s either religion or homosexuality
A person can be homosexual and religious. I said what I said. You cannot use religion to justify your apprehensions and judgements.
Gay men are feminine
No. Just no. This is plainly toxic heterocentric behavior.
Cross-dressers are homosexual
Most Cross-dressers are actually heterosexual.
It’s just a phase
It's not a teenage break up scene. It is not a phase and it is not thoughts filled into one’s head by movies and education.
Queer and other words associated with the LGBTQIAA+ Community are insults
No! Although it did stem from an insult, the word “queer” is now worn by the members of the community on their sleeve!
In most cases, stereotypes stem from a lack of awareness and conditioning about the world. Although it is slowly changing, it is still prevalent in most parts of the world. However, the sad part is that no amount of education can bring about human qualities. Acceptance, empathy, understanding, and support is all that is needed and these are the basic needs of every individual, regardless of their sexual and gender orientation.
Poking fun at, being disgusted by, discriminating, and hating the members of the LGBTQIAA+ community only makes you less of a human, not them. Does a different sexual or gender orientation really bother you in life more than filing your income tax returns and getting vegetables on your way home? Every day, so many humans go through the unspeakable. Every single day, they are targeted for simply speaking up and accepting themselves. Every day they wake up, strength renewed, to face the sociopaths. Every day, it is ignored that no matter what, they are still humans. I hope you know that you are strong. You are brave, and most importantly, you are you.
The “+” sign indicates inclusivity; it broadens the spectrum. It shows that everyday people are realizing and accepting who they are, and as Captain Holt says, “Every time someone steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place”. If they can respect who you are, why can you not? So, thank you. Each and every member of the community and every single ally. For the acceptance and for not violating the right to be.
Author: Zoyah Virani