When you ponder over the concept of love, who is the first person that comes to your mind?
It might be that cute guy/girl you are crushing on, your significant other, or maybe even your parents. But how many of you visualize yourself when thinking about love?
Self-love is an overrated theory for many people and they often ignore its importance. But we cannot always rely on external sources for love. This is where self-love comes in. You don’t have to depend on others to feel respected, loved and empowered. Be that person for yourself….
There sits a judge in our mind that contemplates every little thing that we do, and then passes a verdict. If the verdict is favorable, we find an appreciation for ourselves. But if the verdict is critical, we start undermining ourselves. This judge residing in our mind is constantly comparing us to society’s definition of perfection.
Society passes a constant judgment which is often more critical than not. We end up being too hard on ourselves without even realizing it. We aspire to be perfect, to find perfectionism in every realm of our existence, but not for ourselves, but for the approval of others. But what we fail to realize is that perfectionism is an overrated phenomenon and that no one is really ‘perfect’.
There is a whole economy surviving on our insecurities and lack of self-love. That make-up you buy because the company tells you it will make you prettier. They are implying that you are not pretty enough. The heels you buy to look taller, they are telling you that your height is not enough.
But you are enough.
Realize that you don’t have to be the definition of perfect that others define for you. Remember that you just have to be you. Shed those pounds, but not to please others, but because you want to. Apply make-up, but not to impress others, but for yourself. Do it for yourself, not for others.
Self-love begins with accepting the dark parts of yourself along with the bright. It means accepting the good and the bad. It means knowing and embracing your flaws and your strengths. And most importantly, it means believing in yourself.
We all spread love. But the real question is—do we produce enough love for ourselves?
Author: Anika Priyaranjan
Editor: Hirday Lakhwani