My Love-Hate Relationship With Romance

As someone who loves reading romance books, but knows no romantic relationship would live up to the standards of Olive Smith and Adam Carlsen, Augustus and Hazel, Patroclus and Achilles, Percy and Annabeth and Peeta and Katniss, wait, let me stop here because I could keep going on for ages. This is going to be like the devil and angel on my shoulder, fighting bitterly. Who knows it might end up being the next big enemies to lovers story.


Don’t get me wrong, I love reading romance, but at times it gets frustrating and I feel like throwing my book against the wall or off the building. Now why? You might ask, well, let me tell you. Honestly it's like having an addiction, you want to stop reading but you just can’t. I live for the little moments like- character A calling character B a specific nickname, the forehead kisses, the heartwarming hugs, them holding hands, the witty banter, the angst and tension, and just the wholesome moments shared between them. Is it too much to ask for my soulmate to dance with me in the refrigerator light, as we bake brownies in the middle of the night? All of this makes my heart melt, but they are also the very reason my expectations are so high. Knowing that at times I might not get my own perfect little love story is heart wrenching, I just want to curl up in a ball and cry.

I think my toxic trait is believing that I will find ‘the one’ at the age of 15. As you can see the ‘childhood best friends to lovers’ trope has been affecting me tremendously. While we’re on the topic of this trope, let's talk about the frustration you feel when the main characters date other people, knowing they are totally in love with each other. And if you want to talk about frustration don't even get me started on enemies to lovers. The angst. THE ANGST! Sometimes I just feel like throwing them at each other just to make them finally kiss! Like come on, get it over with already!


This weekend, I read 3 romance books in a row and I felt content and lived in a perfect imaginary world, but I got a reality check when I had to attend online school the next day, and I realized the world isn’t my romanticized version of it. Harsh, isn’t it?


But then I see quotes like these, and I remember why it's so special to me. Here are some of my favorites!

“Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.”

-Emily Bronte.


“F- the usual. I don't want to be picture-perfect with you. I want to be a f-ing mosaic, made up of broken pieces so damn colorful, you can't help finding them beautiful.”

-Lauren Asher

“You are confident, you're stubborn and resilient. So brave. So strong. So inhumanly beautiful. You could conquer the world.”

-Tahreh Mafi


“He was contemplation and enthusiasm. Ambition and strong coffee. I could have looked at him forever.”

-E. Lockhart


And then I remember it all. No matter how much I want to curse at the multiple cute scenes in a book, the pros just outweigh the cons. Because who are we if not perpetual dreamers?

So I self diagnose myself with a disease- “I believe I will have the love I’ve been reading about all these years, one day. One day…”


Authors: Krishna Malkani and Adwita Chaure


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