My Problem With the Soulmate Myth

I think that we are no strangers to the concept of a ‘soulmate’ . Out of 7 billion people in the world, there is one person out there that's perfect for you. Logistically, I think it’s impossible to find your soulmate, if there even is one. The probability that you both grew up in the same city, let alone the same country, is extremely low. I mean, if you find your soulmate, that’s well and good, but what about the millions of people who don’t? Are they destined to always be alone? I don’t think so.


I have always been a fan of the quote, “If soulmates do exist, they are not found, but made.” from The Good Place. I think it brings a refreshing take on soulmates that hasn’t been explored enough. It’s simply incorrect that there is someone out there that is perfectly compatible with you. Compatibility is dynamic, and one can be compatible with many people, not just one. And, I think that an individual can have more than one soulmate too. I’ve seen countless people marry their so-called soulmate, only to separate. But, wasn’t the whole point to be together forever? Soulmates as a concept is romanticised to the point where it has become extreme. People are down in the depths of despair when they don’t find one; and have way too high expectations for when they do. Not to mention how sometimes abuse from your ‘soulmate’ is brushed off, because they are supposed to be ‘perfect’ .


I think that there is too much pressure on people to find ‘the one’, when in reality, there can be multiple people who love and cherish you and bring out the better in you. A soulmate is built when there is trust, compassion, good communication, empathy and love. And I strongly believe that these things can be found in more than one person in an individual’s lifetime.


Author: Anika Garg

Editor: Adwita Chaure


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